Is there a
particular phrase that you have always wanted/needed a particular person in
your life to say to you?
Are you waiting for
someone to tell you that they are proud of you?
Do you long for
someone to tell you that they love you?
Maybe you want
someone to give you permission to do something that you (secretly) have always
wanted to do?
Is what you need to
hear most include “I see you” or “I hear you” or “I believe you?”
Do you need to hear
from someone that they forgive you, or perhaps you need to hear someone apologize
Or, is the phrase
that you want to hear more than any other simply “thank you?”
How long have you
waited to hear that particular phrase?
Is the person that you long to hear it from even part or your life, or
As humans, we have
a part of us that longs to hear phrases of love or validation from others. We look to those in our lives around us to
say what we feel we so desperately need to hear so we live our lives more
Yet, the person we
MOST need to hear these phrases from isn’t anyone in our lives, but OURSELVES.
If you want someone
to say those phrases to you, it’s because you aren’t saying them enough, or at
all, to yourself!
The person you
REALLY want to be proud of you...is yourself.
The person you really want to hear say “I love you”...is yourself. The person you really want to get permission
You could write the
phrases on post-its or a card that you could carry around. Yet, “hearing” the words is more important
than just seeing them, why not record yourself speaking them so you can play
the audio. But, an even better practice
would be to stand in front of a mirror as you say the phrases to your
reflection so you can really soak them in.
How do you
transition from one week to the next?
Leisurely and calmly, frantically and stressed out, or do you barely
notice and then wonder why the days/weeks/months all blur together and time
seems to be going by faster than you can blink?
desire to go on pilgrimages - whether to spiritual sites, or to those of famous
personages, or even just to a particular location that calls to them. For example, they long to walk where someone
they admire lived, touching the common everyday items the person used, and
seeing the area from the person’s vantage point, literally walking where that
Yet, how many of us
fully walk in our own lives? Do we even
see what makes us uniquely special, and what we contribute to others?
I supposed it is a
bit like trying to tell a fish to notice the water it is swimming in. We are so immersed within our daily lives
that it is hard to step back and notice what we are even doing, yet, that is
exactly why it is important to do so.
One reason why it
feels like life is spinning out of control at such a frantic pace is because we
aren’t pausing enough. Scientists tell
us that we are hard-wired for the negative - as a survival mechanism - so it is
much easier to focus on what didn’t get done, what needs to get done, what
could happen, and, of course, what we dread will happen.
Yet, there is
another way to approach our lives. By
pausing and noticing our lives...by walking where we have walked, as it were.
Gratitude is a
choice. A choice to pause and
consciously look around and see what makes our lives uniquely our lives. It is a choice to consciously step back and
see what we have done, how we have touched others, how we have triumphed or
persevered, and how far we have come. It
is a choice to acknowledge who we are, as we are.
is a time when we tend to collectively focus on gratitude, it is something we
could do at the end of our week to help us transition fully from one week to
the next. And, for an added benefit, why not make it a daily habitual way to
end each day.